So we have chosen a name

Since we didn't know the sex of the baby I was feeling so conflicted with what to choose so we have agreed On Sweetpea & it feels wonderful to give the baby a name..My 4 living sons have a nickname we call them so it seems fitting to give our angel a nickname as well..It eases my heart to have a name for our Angel & now just to start on Sweetpea's garden, I want a place I can go to cry or just feel close to Sweetpea..& FYI: I still feel in my heart the baby was a girl ;-)

Another Beautiful Poem

Daddy please don't look so sad, momma please don't cry.
Cause I'm in the arms of Jesus, and he sings me lullabies.
Please try not to question God, don't think he is unkind.
Don't think he sent me to you and then changed his mind.
You see I'm a special child, I am needed up above.
I'm the special gift you gave Him, a product of your love.
I'll always be there with you, so watch the sky at night.
Look for the brightest star and know that's my halo's brilliant light.
You'll see me in the morning frost that mists your window pane.
That's me in the summer showers, I'll be dancing in the rain.
When you feel a gentle breeze from a gentle wind that blows.
Know that it's me planting a kiss upon your nose.
When you see a child playing and your heart feels a tug,
Don't be sad mommy, that's just me giving your heart a hug.
So daddy don't looks so sad and momma please don't cry.
I'm in the arms of Jesus and he sings me lullabies!
~Unknown~

naming my Angel

I am feeling a lil conflicted..I miscarried at 7 weeks so I don't know the sex of my baby but I would like to give him/her a name, so I used the chinese birth calendar to see what it could have possibly been & it said girl which makes sense to me since I have carried 4 boys without problems including my rainbow..now my conflict..if it was a boy instead I don't want to give it a girl name & i don't want to say I lost a daughter & people be like I just wanted a girl so badly that I am just claiming to lose a girl. what would you do?

The Duggar Family - Michelle's Blog - The Importance of Grieving After a Miscarriage

A wonderful blog by Michelle Dugger explaining how she grieves for her daughter


The Duggar Family - Michelle's Blog - The Importance of Grieving After a Miscarriage

It all came flooding back

So I watched the episode of 19 kids & counting last night. It was the episode where they found out they lost their 20th child & did the memorial for her. Regardless of how u feel about the Duggers my heart broke for them cuz I know how they feel & how they felt the moment they found out their baby no longer had a heartbeat. It took me back to that day I found out my baby no longer had a heart beat & I couldn't hold back my sadness & tears.It is good to cry for my baby once in a while cuz I miss him/her so much even though I have 4 beautiful boys, including my rainbow, it doesn't change the fact that I lost a child..There was a woman who posted a blog stating that a miscarriage is not the loss of a baby but the loss of an idea of a baby but to me that is ridiculousness cuz as soon as I find out i'm pregnant I love my "baby" and address it as "the baby" til I know the sex then I call it by it's name..Of course losing a living child you have been raising is nothing like a miscarriage but to try to diminish the grief is cruel.

I do wish I had the blessing of holding my child like the Duggers did, to know whether it was a boy or girl but at 7 weeks their really is nothing to hold, or I should say hard to find to hold..

I had a dream just b4 I miscarried, where I was holding a deformed baby & then I looked up the baby was gone but their was a man carrying away a beautiful curly haired, blue eyed lil girl waving to me with a smile on her face & I was reaching for her but then she was gone..I want to think that was Gods way of telling me that my child would be better off in Heaven then here & showed me how Happy & beautiful she is & her waving to me was a way to tell me she is happy & Healthy in Heaven and that she wasn't afraid, so that's helps me a lil bit & also to know I WILL see my child again some day & that when I go to Heaven I will never feel that pain of losing him/her again.